From the perspective of the "man in the pew", this is what people are looking for in Pastors:
- Men who are true to their doctrinal convictions. When a man gets ordained, he states what he believes and is examined. When a man candidates for a church, he states his doctrinal position. Congregants want men who are honest about what they believe.
- Genuiness in life. Face it, every man (and thus every Pastor) is a sinner. Pastors will be angry, face temptations, and make mistakes. But it is important that there be a genuiness about the character of a man. Compare 1 Timothy 3:2-7:
A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, temperate, sober-minded, of good behavior, hospitable, able to teach; not given to wine, not violent, not greedy for money, but gentle, not quarrelsome, not covetous; one who rules his own house well, having his children in submission with all reverence (for if a man does not know how to rule his own house, how will he take care of the church of God?); not a novice, lest being puffed up with pride he fall into the same condemnation as the devil. Moreover he must have a good testimony among those who are outside, lest he fall into reproach and the snare of the devil
- Marital faithfulness. Even unsaved people can be monogamous, chaste, and committed to their marriage vows! How much more the minister of God!
Here are two good articles on Ministry Integrity. I commend them to my readers' attention!
Integrity: Part One
Excerpt:
The process found at Quickie Lube is remarkably similar to the one that will build the integrity you desire into your life. The process at the oil changers is simple: remove the old oil, replace the filter, add the new oil. That is the process, outlined in Ephesians 4:22 – 24, we will follow as well. The first step in becoming a person of integrity is to remove that which is destroying your integrity. Secondly, and most importantly, is to replace the filter. Too often we charge ahead and try to force the new oil through a clogged filter. It doesn’t work well for cars, and is even less effective on a person’s life. The significant transformation of integrity takes place in this second step, as it involves a transformation of the mind and thought processes. Finally, new oil can be added. Think of this as the practices of a transformed life.
Integrity: Part Two
Excerpt:
Psalm 51 offers an unparalleled glimpse into the life of Israel’s most popular leader to date. King David – the darling of the nation, the slayer of ten thousands, the giant killer, the singing shepherd, the humble hero – had a problem of integrity. He had a problem no amount of ‘spin’ could remedy. To make matters worse, others knew of his failures. His spiritual advisor made it quite clear that not everyone had been fooled by his boyish charms, devastating good looks and position of power. David’s problem was sin, namely pride, covetousness, adultery, lying, murder, and selfishness to name just a few. Brought face to face with the reality of his sin, David cries out to God. You are provided the opportunity of reading the transcript of his prayers. In them are principles to guide your own search for integrity.
David describes his process of repentance in the first 9 verses. This involved a detailed record of what had transpired. David did not confess generally, but very specifically. He then pleads for mercy to be the overriding principle in his correction. He requests a thorough clearing of his record, asking for his offenses to be expunged from the official records. He does this with a simple, yet profound acknowledgment of his guilt, a unvarnished representation of his depravity, and a heart-wrenching cry for some solution to be reached